Military boyfriend home and didn’t tell me what should I do?20F 23M

Military boyfriend home and didn’t tell me

First I want to start with me and my boyfriend were together for about a year before he got deployed. Our relationship seemed to be going very well, he always reassured me, we hardly fought, he was always putting effort into the relationship etc. when we first got together he lived about two hours away from eachother which wasn’t a problem, we both put a lot of time into building our trust with eachother and communicating while we weren’t together. Our bond grew very quickly eventually he was talking about marriage, and a future together, he was even sending me money to save toward a house deposit. I really loved him.

He got a PCS to germany and unfortunately I wasn’t able to go with him because I was in school for nursing. Still our relationship and bond was strong. He was the type of person who pushed me to do better, who wouldn’t go out to party if girls were there, who would give me his login passwords if I wanted just so I wasn’t overthinking. In the 3 months he was there. I went to see him once, and he came to see me twice.

However when he got deployed overseas everything changed. At first I thought it was because he was just adjusting to the new circumstances and had a lot on his mind but he completely lost all effort for the relationship.He hardly called, his reply’s were short and dry and there would be days he go without even saying he loved me. I mean I knew I couldn’t be his top priority being out there but I expected a bit more than that.

We actually broke up briefly, his grandpa died about 2 months after he got out there and I know that was really hard on him. He told me he couldn’t focus on our relationship and that he was dealing with too much, I was heartbroken but understood. I even sent a care package with a few personal items and a bunch of snacks because I still cared about him and wanted to end on good terms.A few weeks later he messaged me how he was sorry and loved me etc etc. (no he didn’t get back with me because of the care package,that didnt get delivered till months later) anyways….I took him back but this time he was being weird on social media. He refused too add me back on ig. He said he “deleted the app”. A apart of me really wanted to believe him but I’d see his followers changing. Every time I confronted him he denied any accusations.

3 weeks went by since he last reached out. I started to get worried and contacted his his family. I also went through his moms Facebook to find out she posted a photo of him back home in maimi and he hadn’t let me no. In the picture there was a girl, I’m not sure who it is. He still hasn’t reached out too me, his last message he was saying how much he loved me and how I was the only girl he wanted in his life forever etc. I just think it’s crazy that he would lead me on then completely ghost me knowing I was worried about him, not even letting me know he was home okay. We were together for 1.6 years honestly heartbreaking.

It just doesn’t make sense, we could’ve atleast ended on good terms. I waited months for him because I didn’t want to give up for the possibility of us working things out once he got home. He insisted that nothing was going on and that he wanted to be with me.Even though he’s hurt me so badly I still miss him and think about the memories and plans we made for the future, it seemed like we were perfect for each other.