VA cash out high debt ratio.

I am a 100 % disabled veteran that only has my disability income as I lost my job again due to my medical conditions. I currently have a $3700 VA mortgage and another 5k in monthly debt obligations. I have approximately $600,000 in equity in my current house. I've tried to get a VA cash out loan , paying off all my debt and am having a hard time qualifying. For context , id have the same payment as my current mortgage and pay off all my other accounts. Two lenders are telling me I'm at 70% DTI and I need to be at 65% to qualify.

Any advice on a lender who might help is appreciated.