Probably the wrong place for this

Cautionary or precautionary tale I guess. Had a servicemember talk to me who was really in a tough time. Going through a divorce. Found out his wife was cheating constantly while out to sea. Mostly with the father of her first child. He had been treating the step-child as his own the whole time. I honestly didn't know it wasn't. He is a few years from retirement. Now get this. The court wants him to pay child support since he has been functioning as the child's father and the child doesn't know the biological father according to the mom. The court also wants him to pay her a portion of his retirement. They were married 5 years. He also says her best friend actually came out and told him that this was her plan all along to get benefits from him but she found out she could get child support and part of his retirement so she is filing and planning to go back to the baby's father. Best friend apparently felt bad because he's been such a good guy. All I could do is pat this guy on the back. Imagine paying child support for the next 12 years for a child that isn't yours and not ever getting to see the child and then paying 1000 or more of your retirement for life to someone who never did anything to help you earn it. The system is messed up.